There’s no doubt that cats love us as much as we love them. People who haven’t been blessed with furry feline love have a difficult time believing this, though, because kitties show affection very differently than people do. In fact, some cat behaviors that puzzle, aggravate or even annoy people are a cat’s way of expressing undying affection. From finicky to feisty, our feline friends aren’t always the easiest to read but sometimes have less than obvious ways to show their love.
1. Biting. Fiona, our 12 year old tabbycat that we rescued from our local humane society, likes to bite us. It took us awhile to figure this out but her bites were only half way bites. She would just place her open mouth around our arm or hand but never really biting down. Nibbling isn’t a common sign of love, but when a cat employs it, they’re trying to say “you’re awesome.”
2. Following Us Around. Our outdoor cat, Billie would constantly follow us around whenever we would be outside working on something. Every time I would load up the car in preparation for a trip, Billie would climb in the car or jump into the open trunk. He loved to help us plant our spring garden, often by helping us fertilize.
“3. Tummy up. When your cat throws itself on the floor and starts rolling around, they are trying to get your attention. Cats only show their tummies voluntarily to those they can trust. Feeling safe means a lot to a cat, so when they sprawl out in front of you, this is a sign that they feel loved and protected.
4. Licking your hair or ears. It’s not often that humans are deemed worthy of these very special grooming sessions, but if your cat has chosen to bestow you with hair or ear licking, rest assured you have been welcomed into the inner circle. Grooming is one of the most obvious signs of the friendship and trust you have with your furry companion.
5. Nap time. Cats and Kitties crave warm safe places to sleep, so if your fluffy feline decides to snuggle down beside you or better yet, on your lap, then you should feel especially honored. Cats are most vulnerable when they are sleeping, and there is no greater compliment than when they choose you as their snooze spot. Lisa has all 3 of our cats sharing her 3pm nap time, one on each side of her and i inbetween her legs.
6. Gifting. There is no denying that a small dead something is not at the top of our wishlist, but a kitty that presents you with this bounty deserves to be praised. Despite our domestication, cats still have the inner hunter and sharing their prizes with you is a sign of true friendship.”
7. Lap Time.. Our outdoor cat Billie, would always be looking for the times when we wanted to rest in a chair. He just loved to jump on our laps and purr like crazy.
“If you’ve been fortunate enough to share your life with a cat, then you’ll understand that they are consciously connecting with us. Whether it’s via grooming, purring or snuggling up, cats are loving and affectionate individuals that form very special bonds with their favorite people.
Nonverbal communication is a gift that all living beings share, one you’ll need to reawaken to better interact with and care for your animal companions. Most dog and cat lovers already understand canine and feline body language, which is one non-verbal technique. But you can use your other, natural, nonverbal communication skills, and actually begin to see things through your dog or cat’s eyes, and become his/her voice.
You can learn animal communication by taking a class or reading some of the great books available today on the subject. But many of the basics are so simple that we can easily begin nonverbally communicating right away. Remember, long before humans had spoken language, we were able to communicate among ourselves and with the animals; it is a kind of heart to heart communication skill that we all possess.
It is very important to always communicate in positive terms— “see” what you want your dog or cat to do, rather than focusing on unwanted behaviors. Dogs and cats live fully in the moment, so picture them as you want them to be. For instance, don’t ask them if they want to go to the vet or the groomer or for a ride in the car. Why? Because, they don’t know how they’ll feel until they get there to that exact moment in time. Unlike us, dogs and cats live in the moment. What lessons we can learn about being here—right now! So visualize them peacefully riding in the car, or calmly allowing the vet to examine them.”
SOURCE: Abigail Geer
Some of this article has been excerpted from care2.com, however some of what is presented is from Bryce and Lisa’s personal experience with our own 4 cats (3 indoor and 1 outdoor). care2.com has an excellent article about nonverbal communication with our cats and a great article 10 signs your kitty actually loves you.